What Marriage Should Be
Yes, like everyone else we are going to talk about the Royal Wedding, and we were amongst the many getting up at 4am to witness the start. What we aren't going to do is rant on about the style of hats, the fashion techniques in making them, and the sophisticated dress of the occasion. What we are going to mention is the fact that the Royal Wedding - even the media show that it was made the marriage of two people truly in love and not marrying for convenience the priority of the event. Although we'll admit we wished we were hat designers in London this year (it would have been a retirement year).
One main thing that made the marriage of William and Kate different than others was the showing and explaining of what marriage really is within the Bishop of London's sermon. Even if you would strip out religious beliefs from the sermon and just highlight secular points it is something many should read before getting married or considering it. One of the first things mentioned was that "marriage is intended to be a way in which man and woman help each other". It isn't about filling a void, or beckoning to nature's alarm clock, or fulfilling needs ... it's about helping each other.
In the sermon he also mention that every wedding is a "royal wedding" where the king and the queen create a new life so "life can flow through them into the future". We forget sometimes that marriage is the start of creating a future together and the two involved really need to be there to help each other.
Probably the most feared point that was made was to the fact that a husband and wife are "to give themselves to each other". This is the point where most people hesitate, simply because it is no longer "just about you". It's about "us", not making sure each has their space, but now sharing that space.
The Bishop describes marriage as a transformation of a man and woman into a work of art, but at the same time not trying to "reform" one another. Sharing, but not allowing ambitions to force change.
William and Kate's wedding was truly the "fairytale wedding that was not", but truly a union of two that did a wonderful job of reminding us out there why we married and others why they should. As big of a production as the wedding was, it really wasn't about the hats, dresses, or souvenirs - it was about letting us be reminded of what marriage really is - a sophisticated way in which a man and woman help each other through their enjoyment of life together.
Sounds like a "Pittsburgh thing", doesn't it?
-Karyon (article and layout)
PS - if you missed it, the highlights are on the website listed at the beginning of the article.